Riana Malia: How Can You Attract Extraordinary Love

Have you ever felt tantalizingly close to the relationship, career shift, or life upgrade you've dreamed of—only to watch it slip away at the last moment? You're not alone. High-achieving individuals often excel in most areas yet struggle with the one thing they crave most: deep, matching, extraordinary love.

Riana Malia, a board-certified integrative neurosomatic practitioner and identity architect, has dedicated her work to helping successful women break this cycle. Through her Clear to Create™ method, she guides clients to release old wiring so they can finally step into the partnerships and life they deserve. After applying her own process, Riana married the love of her life a little over two years ago—something she once believed was impossible.

The Hidden Reason You Settle for "Close Enough"

Picture ordering at a restaurant: You ask for something refreshing and nutritious, expecting a crisp arugula salad with figs and goat cheese. Instead, you get a standard Caesar—technically what you described, but not what your heart truly desired.

Riana uses this metaphor to explain a common trap: vague clarity about what you want leads to almost-right outcomes. "This is the reason why you never actually get what you want. You almost do, but you're getting the Caesar salad for the rest of your life instead of the figs and the arugula.

"High-capacity people—whether mid-career professionals rebuilding after a divorce, entrepreneurs balancing ambition and intimacy, or anyone from diverse backgrounds navigating identity—often carry unconscious patterns from past experiences. These create repeated cycles: the same type of partner, recurring conflicts, or self-doubt that erodes confidence.

Clear the Old to Create the New: Riana's 3-Phase Approach

Riana's Clear to Create™ framework boils down to three phases: Clear, Create, and Claim.

• Clear: Identify and release what's no longer serving you—old stories, resentment, cycles, and unprocessed loss. This includes a "dysfunction detox" to rewire neurology and behaviors stored in the unconscious mind (the 90% of our operating system below the neck).A key insight: The unconscious can't process negatives. When you fixate on "I don't want another unfulfilling relationship" or "I don't want debt," it hears the focus and delivers more of it—like a GPS programmed for "crappy relationships."

  
  

• Create: With clarity established (through detailed values, non-negotiables, and desires), replace old patterns with new strategies. Visualize and embody the desired life to activate your reticular activating system (RAS), turning your brain into a magnet for matching opportunities, people, and experiences.

  
  

• Claim: Own and integrate the transformation. Build self-trust, set boundaries, and embody a new frequency that attracts with grace—no external validation needed.

Riana emphasizes gratitude for all experiences:

"It's really important to remember you have to be grateful for all of it, not just the good stuff, because without that, we're not who we are."

Why Focus on What You Don't Want Keeps It Coming

Psychology supports this: The unconscious mind, as a "goal getter," latches onto dominant focus. Studies on reticular activating system and priming show how attention shapes perception—focusing on negatives reinforces them, while positive, sensory-rich visualization draws in desired outcomes.

For many, self-sabotage stems from low self-esteem, fear of success, or protective mechanisms from past pain—making "almost" feel safer than fully receiving.

Reflect: In your own life, where do vague desires or "don't wants" show up? Journal one area where you've settled for close-enough.

Take the First Step Toward Extraordinary Love

Riana's Extraordinary Love Index (The Ellie)—a 40-question diagnostic—reveals blocks across nine areas, delivering a personalized 28-page report with insights and immediate actions.

Visit quiz.rianamalia.com to take it (allow 10-15 minutes). Many report profound "aha" moments connecting dots from past patterns to current frustrations.

Key Takeaways

• Get crystal clear on desires beyond surface level to avoid "almost" results.

• Clear subconscious blocks (patterns, resentment, loss) before creating anew.

• Shift focus from what you don't want to vivid, positive embodiment.

• Trust the process: Gratitude for the full story refines you.

Ready to stop wishing and start living the life—and love—you're meant for? Take The Ellie today, reflect on your results, and consider reaching out if you're called to bespoke support. Share this article if it resonated—someone in your circle might need this nudge toward extraordinary love.